For couples who still care, but feel like life, stress, and old patterns are slowly pulling them apart
You don’t wake up one day in a broken relationship. It usually looks more like this..
You both get home late. Someone’s on their phone. Someone’s still thinking about work. Dinner is rushed. The TV goes on. You talk about logistics (bills, kids, schedules, the weekend).
And then, somehow, the smallest thing turns into a full argument. Not because of what was said but because of everything underneath it.
The exhaustion.
The feeling of not being prioritized.
The resentment that never really got addressed.
The fear that you’re starting to feel more like co-workers than partners. You still love each other but something feels off and you can’t quite name it.
Most couples don’t need “better communication.” They need to understand the pattern they’re stuck in. Every couple has one.
It’s the automatic cycle you fall into when stress hits, when someone feels misunderstood, or when old emotional wounds get triggered.
One of you pushes.
The other pulls away.
Then roles switch.
Then nothing gets resolved.
You’ve probably tried to talk it out.
You’ve probably promised to do better.
You’ve probably had the SAME argument in different words.
This Is The Kind of Couple We Work With
Our couples are often:
busy professionals juggling careers, family, and constant mental load
partners who feel emotionally disconnected even though they share a home
couples who argue about the “same five things” on repeat
people who want to be close again, but don’t know how to get there
Some are newly married.
Some have been together for years.
Some are in major life transitions (career changes, parenthood, grief, burnout)
What they all have in common?
They don’t want surface-level advice. They want real CHANGE.
How Couples Therapy with Us Is Different
We don’t just help you talk. We help you see what’s actually happening between you. Our work is attachment-based, trauma-informed, and grounded in:
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)
The Gottman Method
Attachment & relational theory
Instead of reacting in the moment, you’ll learn:
what your emotional triggers actually are
why your partner responds the way they do
how to slow the cycle down before it explodes
how to repair instead of retreat
Our work will be about changing the emotional dynamic of the relationship, not about keeping score.
What Life Starts To Feel Like When The Pattern Shifts
Couples often tell us:
conflict feels calmer and more productive
they feel emotionally safer with each other
they understand themselves and each other (on a deeper level)
they stop dreading hard conversations
You don’t just fix the problem. You build a new way of relating.
Why Choose Cardinal Hope for Couples Therapy?
We specialize in relationships shaped by:
childhood attachment patterns
emotional wounds that show up under stress
high emotional reactivity or emotional shutdown
This means we don’t just look at your relationship, we look at the people inside it.
Ashley Williams, LMHC
Level II Gottman Method Trained
Advanced Certificate in Trauma Studies
Attachment-based, relational specialist
Ashley works with couples who want deep emotional change and long-term relational growth.
Katherine Shelton, LP-MHC
Katherine brings a grounded, supportive presence to couples who want to rebuild connection, learn what’s healthy, and strengthen emotional safety.
Virtual Couples Therapy in New York & New Jersey
We provide online couples counseling throughout:
New York • NYC • Syracuse • New Jersey • and beyond
No commuting. No added stress. Just space to finally work on what matters.
Book a Free Consultation
If something in this page feels familiar, it’s probably time. You don’t have to stay stuck in the same cycle. Book your free couples consultation today.